Observation and Reflection
Life is the teacher. Your life teaches you. Pay attention.
Don’t just be a participant in your life. Be the observer. Watch what’s happening emotionally at various points throughout the day. Are you happy right now? What exactly are you feeling? Emotions are not the real ‘you.’ Emotions ebb and flow. Happy/Sad, Excited/Bored, Loving/Crabby.
Important tool: Keep a journal. Not the writing a book type of journal. A journal to remind you of where you are at emotionally, right now, today. After a while, go back and reflect on what you have written.
As a long time journaller, I’ll tell you some embarrassing secrets. Every year, I write all about my resolutions to lose weight and de-clutter my house. When you go back in your journals twenty or thirty years and see the same darn resolves, you are face to face with some interesting karma. The other secret is, very often the things I am so emotional about that I have to write pages and pages to calm down, a few months later, I have no emotional attachment to that situation at all. This insight has helped me to regain emotional balance sooner than later.
I will continually encourage you to journal and write more about that. In the meantime, take a notebook (or a word.doc if you must) and just jot down a few things about today:
Your strongest emotion today.
The most unusual occurance of the day.
What you are most grateful for.
Something you learned or something you accomplished.
Again, I emphasize jotting, not literary writing (unless that gives you great pleasure).
Observe, reflect, remember.
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